Planning a wedding is almost like having a second job. There is so much organising and thinking and scheduling going on that it really does take up almost every second thought (and weekends). I got engaged over Christmas 2014 and we recently got married in September 2015 (YAY!). So I did only have 9 months to plan a wedding, which is bit shorter than most (plus we just bought a house). I was very lucky to have a great amount of support around me and everything went absolutely beautifully. It was the most amazing day and was everything I had hoped and dreamed for. All the wedding day elements that I had been organising for 9 whole months feel together perfectly… the colours worked, the decor worked, my dress worked, the hair worked. I am very thankful to be so lucky to be surrounded by so many people I love on such a special day. However, if I was to do it all over again, these are my five top tips to survive planning a wedding.
Choose the wedding dress best for you
I really had no idea what I wanted in a dress, I knew I wanted something timeless and vintage with lace but that was where it stopped. I feel that with so much in the media and advertised around wedding dresses it can be really hard to even know where to start. Not to mention you have to pay just to even try on a dress. Plus family and friends all have their own opinions on what you should wear. So to be honest I actually ended up with three dresses in the end before finding the PERFECT one. The first was an impulse buy, a classic white gown, but was too basic for me in the end. The second was an original 50’s Vintage Gown from America and is the most gorgeous dress but when I tried it on it really wasn’t what I dreamed about walking down the aisle in. My third dress I purchase a mere 3 months before the wedding and it nearly didn’t happen… After being told I could organise a rush order, I was called later that week to tell me that they weren’t able to fill my order in time. PANIC and lots of phone calling ensued before FINALLY securing the dream dress – thanks to the AMAZING team at the Babushka Ballerina Brisbane. My dress was a Rue De Seine wedding gown by NZ Designers, my style is called the Libby Gown and is absolutely timeless in my opinion. My biggest advice to you would be to really focus on what YOU want. Ignore price, ignore fashion, ignore everything around you and just try to visualise what you look like walking down the aisle to your future husband and THAT is the dress you should be wearing. <3
Book your wedding car early
This one I was really surprised about which is why I popped it in. With 9 months to plan a wedding I knew the car hire was a priority to book, but I didn’t realise 9 months was already too late for some. Originally I really want a Volkswagen Combi van to take me to the church, I have always LOVED Volkswagens and thought the idea great that we could all fit in the one vehicle and go in together and it fit the VINTAGE theme. After searching what felt like the entire internet I found a Combi close by and in the colour I wanted… I contact them to lock it in, only to be told it was already booked. So I moved onto a colour I liked less, and it was already booked. So I tried the next and the next and the next, ALL BOOKED!! I was a little demotivated at this point about finding the perfect car, but I do believe things happen for a reason because with more search I found the PERFECT car and contacted them straight away and booked it in on the spot! Our chosen car was the Daimler Majestic Major Limousine for Tic Tac Tours Brisbane. “Miss Daisy” as she is so cutely known was originally the Queensland Governor’s car and Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II hd ridden in this car – FANCY! She had it all Vintage, classic and fit up to 6 people! (On a side note Tic Tac Tours were absolutely amazing to work with, so professional and our driver was beautiful.)
No one really cares about the wedding favours, RSVP invitations or wedding gifts
I am sure you have heard this one before but it is truly something I did learn from planning my wedding and something I would definitely change if I was to do it again. As much as the day is supposed to be about you, there is so much giving to everyone else on the day that is surprising. There are so many rules about etiquette that ‘needs’ to be followed that I really should have taken a step back and gone ‘no, this is what I want to do’. Let’s start with favours – Not everyone cares or even takes them home with them. I must say my favours where super cute and everyone did love them (because it was popcorn and said ‘Thanks for POPPING by’ – CUTE I know!), but no one takes them home anymore or puts them under their pillow to dream about the man they are going to marry, so keep it simple. Think cheap. Think practical. Think decor. Secondly RSVPs, no one RSVPs anymore. I did notice that there are a lot of America sites out there now with electronic RSVP services and maybe this is the way to go because NO ONE sends back RSVP cards. As petty as it does sound, its almost like a binding contract with the bride and groom, because once you confirm to coming we cannot get that $150 per person back from the venue. Lastly, and I don’t know when this happened, but I have spoken with others who have recently gotten married and they said the same thing. Not everyone gets you a gift or a card anymore. I would be happy with a card at least but I was SHOCKED that apparently gifts are now optional. I am a big believer that you can give someone a pineapple jar full of pineapple lollies costing $5 and it can be the most amazing gift in the world to the right person, it is all about the thought. Which leads me into my next point…
Invite who you want to your wedding
This is SOOOO important. If you haven’t seen your second cousin’s daughter’s husband in 5 years – DON’T INVITE THEM! I wanted my wedding to be very private and small, so it was important to me to make sure that people who cared about us and wanted to celebrate our relationship were there for us. One thing I saw online and I thought was a great rule to follow was – unless your parents are paying for the wedding, they don’t get a say in who is invited. Which I think this is a great starting point to really help you decide who SHOULD be there. Also remember that people can come to the ceremony and not attend the actual reception (which I did with my work friends and lesser acquaintances, really great way to find out who really does care). I was really happy with everyone who celebrated our day with us, everyone really seemed to have an AMAZING night, but that was because I followed this rule. We got our wedding down to 58 guest and 10 in the bridal party and it was a perfect intimate size.
Make your wedding day about YOU
I am sure you have noticed a theme along this post but my BIGGEST bit of advice if you have missed it is MAKE SURE THE DAY IS ABOUT YOU. After months of planning and spending lots of money (don’t get me started on the increased prices when you mention Wedding), the day really does go so quickly. Make sure to enjoy ever minute and remember to make it all about you. Make sure to spend time together, remember you don’t HAVE to talk to everyone if you don’t get a chance, remember its a day to celebrate your love and your future so be bit selfish! <3
Do you think I’ve missed something? Would love your feedback. What Advice would you give Brides to be?
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