Valentine’s Day Gift ideas using the 5 Love Languages

VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT IDEAS USING THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES. Valentine's Day Gift Ideas with The 5 Love Languages. Understanding how to shower someone with love based on how they like to receive love. Breakfast in Bed, Romantic Picnic, Personal Gift Ideas.

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and it can mean many things to different people. Some treat the holiday with dread, for some it is a stressful time of not knowing what to buy or how seriously to celebrate the day and then there are those who treat it like it is a normal day. This year is mine and my husband’s first Valentine’s Day as Mr and Mrs – Naw! – and we are lucky enough to be gifted a nights accommodation at the Stamford Plaza in Brisbane to celebrate, which I am really looking forward to a relaxing night with Mr Vintage at Heart. This is our third Valentine’s Day together, and we have definitely gone through the stages of Valentine’s Day – how to celebrate it together, and what to buy or not to buy for one another – which got me thinking about the pressures that Valentine’s Day has on everyone, with its very commercial push on extravagant gifts when truthfully everyone actually feels loved or appreciated in different ways. Which leads me to ‘Valentine’s Day Gift ideas using the 5 Love Languages’. The 5 Love Languages is an online test that you can take which shows you how you like to be praised or shown that you are cared for. As the founder Gary Chapman explains it “After 30 years as a marriage counselor, I am convinced that there are five basic love languages – five ways to express love emotionally. Each person has a primary love language that we must learn to speak if we want that person to feel loved.” I actually did this test at a work conference in order to discover how my staff liked to be acknowledged for their successes and I loved it so much I took it home and got my husband to take it. And I will admit I was surprised with the results, it is funny how people normally praise people the way in which THEY like to be praised or shown that they are appreciated yet everyone has a different way of reading praise or love.

VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT IDEAS USING THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES. Valentine's Day Gift Ideas with The 5 Love Languages. Understanding how to shower someone with love based on how they like to receive love. Breakfast in Bed, Romantic Picnic, Personal Gift Ideas.

How does this help me on Valentine’s Day?

The key thing I took away from The 5 Love Languages is that everyone receives love language differently, which means you may be showering someone with gift and what really would make them feel loved and appreciated is a card with some beautiful words in it or to have some one-on-one time with you. Not everyone appreciates the physical gift, so identifying how someone truly likes to be shown love is a crucial part to any Valentine’s Day  celebration. Valentine’s Day isn’t just about a romantic relationship, but also covers showing those you care about how important they are to you! So get that someone special a gift they deserve and will truly love this year by listening and paying attention to their love language.

The 5 Love Languages – By Gary Chapman

Below is an explanation of the 5 Love Languages taken from Gary Chapman post on Focus on the Family and I have combined with them ‘Valentine’s Day Gift ideas using the 5 Love Languages’ to help you give your loved ones the gift they truly will love and deserve. I always say the best presents aren’t about how much they cost, but about how much thoughts has gone into them.   VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT IDEAS USING THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES. Valentine's Day Gift Ideas with The 5 Love Languages. Understanding how to shower someone with love based on how they like to receive love. Breakfast in Bed, Romantic Picnic, Personal Gift Ideas.

Words of Affirmation – Gift Idea: Jar Full of Love Notes

“One time when my wife and I were visiting our daughter and son-in-law and our two grandchildren, our son-in-law took the garbage out after dinner. When he walked back into the room where we were talking with our daughter, she looked up and said, “John, thanks for taking the garbage out.” Inside I said, “Yes!” because I knew the power of appreciation. I can’t tell you how many men and women have sat in my office over the past 30 years and said to me, “I work my tail off every day, yet my spouse acts like I haven’t done a thing. I never get a single word of appreciation.” If your spouse’s primary love language is words of affirmation, your spoken praise and appreciation will fall like rain on parched soil. Before long, you will see new life sprouting in your marriage as your spouse responds to your words of love.”   VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT IDEAS USING THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES. Valentine's Day Gift Ideas with The 5 Love Languages. Understanding how to shower someone with love based on how they like to receive love. Breakfast in Bed, Romantic Picnic, Personal Gift Ideas.

Acts of Service – Gift Idea: Breakfast in Bed

“Do you remember the old saying, “Actions speak louder than words”? For some people, that is particularly true of love. If acts of service is your spouse’s primary love language, nothing will speak more deeply to him or her emotionally than simple acts of service. Maxine, who had been married for 15 years, came to my office one day because she was frustrated with her marriage. Listen to what she said: “I don’t understand David. Every day he tells me that he loves me, but he never does anything to help me. He just sits on the couch watching TV while I wash the dishes, and the thought never crosses his mind to help me. I’m sick of hearing ‘I love you.’ If he loved me, he would do something to help me.” Maxine’s primary love language is acts of service (not words of affirmation), and even though her husband, David, loved her, he had never learned to express his love in a way that made her feel loved. However, after David and I talked and he read The Five Love Languages, he got the picture and started speaking Maxine’s love language. In less than a month, her love tank was beginning to fill up, and their marriage moved from winter to spring. The next time I talked to Maxine, she said, “It’s wonderful. I wish we had come for counseling 10 years ago. I never knew about the love languages. I just knew I didn’t feel loved.  

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Receiving Gifts – Gift Idea: Cute & Personal Gift Ideas

In every society throughout human history, gift giving has been perceived as an expression of love. Giving gifts is universal, because there is something inside the human psyche that says if you love someone, you will give to him or her. What many people do not understand is that for some people, receiving gifts is their primary love language. It’s the thing that makes them feel loved most deeply. If you’re married to someone whose primary love language is gift giving, you will make your spouse feel loved and treasured by giving gifts on birthdays, holidays, anniversaries and “no occasion” days. The gifts need not be expensive or elaborate; it’s the thought that counts. Even something as simple as a homemade card or a few cheerful flowers will communicate your love to your spouse. Little things mean a lot to a person whose primary love language is receiving gifts.”   VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT IDEAS USING THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES. Valentine's Day Gift Ideas with The 5 Love Languages. Understanding how to shower someone with love based on how they like to receive love. Breakfast in Bed, Romantic Picnic, Personal Gift Ideas.

Quality Time – Gift Idea: Picnic in the Park

If your spouse’s love language is quality time, giving him or her your undivided attention is one of the best ways you can show your love. Some men pride themselves on being able to watch television, read a magazine, and listen to their wives, all at the same time. That is an admirable trait, but it is not speaking the love language of quality time. Instead, you must turn off the TV, lay the magazine down, look into your mate’s eyes, and listen and interact. To your spouse, 20 minutes of your undivided attention – listening and conversing – is like a 20-minute refill of his or her love tank. Men, if you really want to impress your wife, the next time she walks into the room while you are watching a sporting event, put the television on mute and don’t take your eyes off her as long as she’s in the room. If she engages you in conversation, turn the TV off and give her your undivided attention. You will score a thousand points and her love tank will be overflowing.”   VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT IDEAS USING THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES. Valentine's Day Gift Ideas with The 5 Love Languages. Understanding how to shower someone with love based on how they like to receive love. Breakfast in Bed, Romantic Picnic, Personal Gift Ideas.

Physical Touch – Gift Idea: Take a Bath Together

We have long known the emotional power of physical touch. That’s why we pick up babies and touch them tenderly. Long before an infant understands the meaning of the word love, he or she feels loved by physical touch. In marriage, the love language of physical touch includes everything from putting a hand on your mate’s shoulder as you walk by, touching his or her leg as you’re driving together, and holding hands while you’re walking to kissing, embracing and sexual intercourse. If physical touch is your spouse’s primary love language, nothing communicates love more clearly than for you to take the initiative to reach out and touch your mate.”  

More Gift Ideas…

Make sure you check out more ‘Valentine’s Day Gift ideas using the 5 Love Languages’ on my Valentine’s Day // Gift Ideas Pinterest Board. I have filled it with some great ideas that I have found around the far corners of the web, taking the hassle out of it for you. Also, don’t forget to PIN this post so you can find it again!  

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VALENTINE’S DAY GIFT IDEAS USING THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES. Valentine's Day Gift Ideas with The 5 Love Languages. Understanding how to shower someone with love based on how they like to receive love. Breakfast in Bed, Romantic Picnic, Personal Gift Ideas.

Valentine’s Day Gift ideas using the 5 Love Languages



Founder of the Vintage at Heart blog – Kacey loves to share with you her journey through the ever-changing adventures of life as she explores motherhood, repurpose thrift store finds, and discover how to have a more sustainable home.

27 Comments

  1. April
    February 8, 2016

    Some of these are right up my alley! I love the 5 Love Languages and it has helped so much when it comes to my relationship.

    Thanks for the tips! 🙂

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      I love what you have done with your post April, and thanks so much for linking to my blog! Feeling happy feelings. Really glad you loved the post and got great inspiration from it. 🙂

      Reply
  2. Yaya
    February 9, 2016

    I am all about the 5 languages of love. I liked how you gave an idea to touch each one of those languages. thanks for sharing

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      So glad you loved the gift ideas Yaya and thanks so much for visiting my blog!

      Reply
  3. Lauren Dillard
    February 9, 2016

    I love the thought put into this post! I pinned it 🙂

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      Thank so much for the pin Lauren and really glad you enjoyed the post!

      Reply
  4. Emily
    February 9, 2016

    I love the Love Languages! I’ve never thought of how to put them into gifts though (other than the love language of gift giving, of course haha). This is great! Thank you 🙂

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      Really happy to have been of inspiration Emily! My husband is all about the Acts of Services, as he loves it when I wash up and its his turn or cook dinner when its his turn – so it is really something that resonated with me. 🙂

      Reply
  5. Maple Alps
    February 9, 2016

    Great post and good ideas! Have enjoyed browsing your site in general!

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      Really happy you enjoyed browsing my website Maple Alps. Your blog is so adorable, with AMAZING images (followed you on Instagram). 🙂

      Reply
  6. Carlie
    February 9, 2016

    I love the idea of the love note jar! Totally doing that! Thanks

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      Yay!! So glad… now I want to see images on Instagram. Have fun planning your words of affirmation. <3

      Reply
  7. Margo Gentile
    February 10, 2016

    I really like all of these 5! So romantic! I’d be happy with any of them.

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      Me too! I am a lover of love… makes it really easy for my husband. LOL

      Reply
  8. Sue Purdy
    February 10, 2016

    What a gorgeous post. Loved it and the photos were perfect.

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      Thanks Sue and thanks so much for stopping by. Really glad you enjoyed the post.

      Reply
  9. Erin
    February 10, 2016

    What a unique post and great ideas. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      Thanks Erin, I enjoy looking at things from a different perspective. Hope you enjoyed your visit 🙂

      Reply
  10. Rachel Rossi
    February 11, 2016

    Some really great ideas! The love languages thing makes a lot of sense, even though it sounds sappy!

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      It totally makes sense, and really reminds me of my Mum and Dad. Mum is very much an Acts of Service, whereas Dad buys her gifts… so they are never on the same page with sharing their emotions. Sappy and all I think its a winner 😉

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  11. This is a wonderful approach to truly celebrating the PERSON not just this mostly fictional commercial holiday (as my DH calls it). I tell him that is isn’t about the Hallmark holiday but as a reminder to take a moment and cherish each other because we can. I think focusing on who they are and what they would really appreciate is very important and takes the focus off of ourselves. I find I am much more giving and loving when I just really focus on the other person.

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    1. Kacey
      February 11, 2016

      Love your words Jennifer and so true! Sometimes we really do think people should act and think like us, but we are all such different people with different ways. So showing people how much you love them in a way they truly understand is the perfect gift. I hope you have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

      Reply
  12. Ruthie
    February 11, 2016

    I love this book so much! What a fabulous way to break down Valentines Day and really take the time to make sure you are filling your spouses love tank.

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    1. Kacey
      February 19, 2016

      Nothing I love better then getting someone the perfect gift! Hope you had a wonderful V-Day.

      Reply
  13. Ninz
    February 14, 2016

    Great post and such cill ideas for us to follow. Really enjoyed reading it! xxx

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    1. Kacey
      February 19, 2016

      Thanks Ninz! I hope you had a wonderful V-Day… maybe some great gift ideas for another occasion.

      Reply
  14. Janelle
    February 13, 2017

    This is such a lovely post Kacey! I’ve just started reading ‘The Five Love Languages’ and it’s very eye opening! x

    Reply

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